The hell of 2021 reflection and goals to the new year

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2021 Reflection Questions

1. Proudest moment of the year -  Graduating from my apprenticeship / When I put my mental health as priority. 
2. Most embarrassing moment this year - When dongaruski in my pants at the gas station / When I get lit with friends around.
3. Funniest moment of the year - Times when we're lit together / When Nicko and I do some dumb shit while high outside of the house. 
4. Your biggest achievement of the year -  Promoted to journeymen / Surviving a major car accident.
5. Best moment of the year - Going on dates and adventures w/ you, spending time with family and develop a new friendship with Joe. / When my parents was able to visit the place I lived. 
6. Most challenging thing this year - Having to live check-to-check and working "under the table" 
7. Best holiday memory of the year - Thanksgiving / Quitting my job on the most expensive time of the month. 
8. Best advise you heard this year - "Understand your partner in a deeper meaning." / "Be patient with yourself and be presence in the moment."
9. Most grateful for this year - Grateful for health and still being able to afford things, in spike of the income situation. / Life and my health.
10. Favorite family memory of the year - My family and I experiencing visiting a new destination together, Hawaii. / When my family was able to send time with Nicko's family. 
11. Biggest regret this year - Messing with you. / Not taking action for what career earlier. 
12. Most excited for this year - Excited to share and experience my trip to Hawaii with my family. / My travels 
13. Best thing you learned this year - Working with Joe provided me with more training and knowledge in different types of work. / Love yourself and making sure I am okay before taking care of others.
14. Biggest change you made this year - The first step to a new career path. / Being unemployed as a choice.
15. Best gift you received this year - Material things, from others and myself. / Family and friends emotional supportive that I've done. 
16. A new friend you made this year - "Motherfuckin Joe" / Stephen and Ashley
17. Most inspiring person you met this year - Joe is the most inspiring person I met this year. (own company = own boss, meaningful hobby) / My-My
18. One word to describe this year - "ZIG-ZAG" / "CATASTROPHIC"
19. An unexpected obstacle this year - Being laid-off for a long period of time compared to other years. / my mental health going downhill and being diagnose with depression.
20. An unexpected surprise this year - Going through a list of companies and not being able to find work. / This year was full of surprises, good and bad. (car accident, mental health, physical health, and career)
21. Best place you visited this year - Hawaii / NOLA
22. A new skill you learned this year - Finish work / Baking new sweets
23. Biggest obsession this year -  Porn / Cleaning 
24. Best book you read this year - Rich Dad, Poor Dad / You are a Badass
25. Best food you ate this year - Eating beef for the first time in a long time. (Brazil stake house and BBQ at the cabin) / NOLA treats and Poke in Hawaii 
26. Best TV show you watched this year - Ozarks / Squid Game
27. Best viral video you saw this year - Gawk Gawk 3000 / None
28. Best movie this year - Spider-Man No Way Home / <- same
29. Best song you heard this year - Cold Heart - Elton John, Dua Lipa / Vibe for me 
30. Worst song you heard this year - TeeMonroe but it slaps tho! / All the cringe songs Nicko be playing
31. Worst movie you saw this year - Cannot recall / Some cartoons 
32. Pick three words to describe this year - Windy, open, / challenging, loving and blessed.
33. What was your biggest personal change from January - December of this year? July (I was laid off and calling every possible number to find work / August when I started to get sick without realizing it. 
34. In what way(s) did you grow emotionally? Being humble and realizing what I have more so than i did. / Being present with myself and in settings in real time to connect with others. 
35. In what way(s) did you grow spiritually? Thank god for what I have and having more time to myself and with family. / Thanking all gods for everything that happened and getting me through tough times. Praying and understanding more. 
36. In what way(s) did you grow physically? Weight from getting that good-good. / Weight! I've gained some weight than my usual. 
37. In what way(s) did you grow in your relationship with others? Appreciate the presence around me and vis version. / I've been more distance this year, but I am trying to make an effort but i have to put myself and my family first. 
38. What was the most enjoyable part of your work? (professionally and at home) - Waking up in the morning and enjoying the job and coworkers presence. / my coworkers! hands down!
39. What was the best way you used your time this year? Keeping myself busing doing anything, errands, chores etc to prolong my day (THIS IS A DAMN LIE- MN) / being active as much as possible. I do clean a lot as a therapy outlet. 
40. Reflecting on 2021, tell me in a few sentences what's the good, bad, and advices you would give to yourself for the new year?  

            I was able to learn new skills and developing new friendships. Throughout the year, I was able to take my first step to a new path; that I am excited to take on following years to come. The best advise I can give to myself is to push through any obstacles. Being positive or negative situations there may be.  / 

    Jan - Car accident 

    Feb - Recovering 

    Mar - Recovering

    Apr - PT and Chro

    May - nothing out of the ordinary 

    Jun - Trip to NOLA 

    Jul - Hiked 10 miles and jumped off the bridge & wine time with my girls!

    Aug - Vegas for my sisters wedding

    Sep - Bottle Rock with Saida and Hawaii with Nicko's family 

    Oct - Danny's and Sarah's Baby Shower for Ahri! 

    Nov - Thanksgiving with both side of the family. Quit my job!

    Dec - Christmas with my friends and family

Advise I would give to myself is do everything that makes you happy but be patient with myself. Life is short and live in the moment. Don't worry so much about the future if I cannot control it. Knowing what I want in life, I will get there someday and to communicate more fluently. 

Onto to the New Year

1. What is your slogan for 2022? -  / "Bounce back harder than the last."
2. Place you want to visit next year -  Florida, Disneyworld, East Coast trip / Florida, one international trip. 
3. One thing to work harder on next year - To have and to keep a job / Myself and my job
4. Something new to try next year - New career path as a plumber / A new hobby! Anything :)
5. A new skill to learn next year - Plumber / New technique with baking and cooking.
6. Habits to change next year - Laziness / Physical activities 
7. What would you change about yourself? -  Change my ways towards you / My strict mindset and hardship I set for myself.
8. What brings you the most joy and how are you going to do more than that? To spend time with family and love ones and getting a good job. / 
9. Three short term goals for next year (6 months) To find a job / to find a good job and get better with my mental health. 
10. Three long term goals for next year (12 months) To be able to dive into my new path of career as a plumber / Be able to save more than my initial goal. 
11. Material: What three things would you like to purchase next year? Stuff for Nai'lo's room and stuff for the loft and plane ticket to somewhere / New car, new ring and something big. 

Fill in the blank: 

1. I want to repeat: a vacation / nothing
2. I want to lose: weight / my negative thoughts
3. I want to gain: knowledge / power and knowledge
4. I want to enjoy: with family / my life the way I want to
5. I want to savor: health / every passing moment possible
6. I need more: moe money-hunnay / money
7. I can succeed by: going hard / listening and understanding 
8. My helpers are: my love ones / my rocks
9. I will succeed in: my job / making myself better and everything that I do
10. I need to say that: live your best life.  / i am thankful to be able to move on this year. 

Quarterly Goals: Q1 - 2022

1. Major Goal:
2. To reach the goal; I need to __________

New Year resolutions: MN

• Eat clean
• Read more books
• Take some classes 
• Save more money 
• Find a job
• More hikes
• Smile more
• Laugh more 
• Spend more time with my parents
• Go on a trip with my parents 

New Year resolutions: NS

• More success 
• Find a job 
• Finding a meaningful hobby
• Setting up goals 
• Work out more

2020-2021

Let's reflect on 2020 together here.  

1. Proudest moment of the year - "New house baby!" / Paying off one of my main credit cards. 
2. Most embarrassing moment this year - "When I got kicked out baby!" / When I first farted in front of my boyfriend.
3. Funniest moment of the year - Moments when we're high together. / When we're being silly together 
4. Your biggest achievement of the year - Finding a home and having a bit more confident with my job  / taking the first steps to looking into a master program and paying off my debt
5. Best moment of the year - Being able to connect with my SO on another level, more than just friendhship and SEX / Being able to be myself with someone other than my family and spending time with my parents. 
6. Most challenging thing this year - Avoiding Corona virus while working and grateful to still be employeed during this year. Surving through 2020  / Flustering myself with what I want to do with my life. 
7. Best holiday memory of the year - Christmas- family and 4th of July / Valentine's Day and 4th of July. 
8. Best advise you heard this year - / "Don't settle for confort." 
9. Most grateful for this year - Family and a good job / Family, heath and god. 
10. Favorite family memory of the year - Spending time with both families during the holidays. Visiting my cousin in TX and being able to see others during this crazy time. 
11. Biggest regret this year - Don'y let anybody borrow. "Colteral first, borrow later" No regrets!
12. Most excited for this year - God blessed with a new home. / My trip to Spain with Hongdat and Tony. 
13. Best thing you learned this year - Not to trust a lot of people /  I learned to be patience with myself and others and being more understanding with things. 
14. Biggest change you made this year - Moving into a bigger home than where my family started in.  / Me moving in with my SO. 
15. Best gift you received this year - Birthday and christma gift / A second family. 
16. A new friend you made this year - My boy ray and slimmy B / my SO 
17. Most inspiring person you met this year - maybe you (my SO) / my SO
18. One word to describe this year - "BitterSweet" / "Pandemic"
19. An unexpected obstacle this year - Being kicked out / Losing a "best friend" who was toxic
20. An unexpected suprise this year - Being with you unexpectedly / Falling for someone that I did not tended to stay long with. 
21. Best place you visited this year - Portland, OR / Barcelona, Spain
22. A new skill you learned this year - Cutting dry wall by hand / Negotiaction with clients 
23. Biggest obsession this year - Getting what I want / $$$$ 
24. Best book you read this year - The 5 love lanuages / H.E.R
25. Best food you ate this year - Motherfuckin Cream Puffs and Hot Boys / Everything from Spain and their BREAD. 
26. Best TV show you watched this year - Honey Hesit (La Casa de Papel), Black Mirror, Blackish 
27. Best viral video you saw this year - / "That's my baby dawg"
28. Best meme you saw this year
29. Best movie this year -Soul- Pixar
30. Best song you heard this year - 
31. Worst song you heard this year
32. Worst movie you saw this year
33. Pick three words to describe this year - Happy, Crazy, Family/Friend / Grateful, Scary, Stable
34. What was your biggest personal change from January - December of this year? no change
35. In what way(s) did you grow emotionally? Having to learn to love a person / Letting small things go and understand to build a healthy relationship. 
36. In what way(s) did you grow spiritually? Very cautous and thankful I'm able to avoid the covid. Pray more /  Connecting with others on another level for the more positive view.
37. In what way(s) did you grow physically? From eating too much / From balacing my intake on caleries. 
38. In what way(s) did you grow in your relationship with others? Having to love family and SO more and be able to care more. Be more giving and less selfsish / Listen and understand. Reaching out to friends and family more than before.  
39. What was the most enjoyable part of your work? (professionally and at home) - Being able to grow with my forming / Working from home
40. What was the best way you used your time this year? Being able to travel and finding time for family as well. Spending time and connecting with my boyfriend and hustling my side business. 
41. Reflecting on 2020, tell me in a few sentences what's the good, bad, and advices you would give to yourself for the new year?  Stay with what you know. Learn to be open to people and always remember to love yourself. / I was able to connect with someone on a whole other level. With the downfall of some baggage but I'm willing to understand and learn through the process. The advice I would give to myself is, at the end of the day, you still have to look after yourself and make sure that youre mentally okay during this pandemic. 

End of 2020 Interview

What is your favorite:

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Onto 2021

1. What is your slogan for 2021? "Save Money 2021 BABY!" / "Do what it takes to get that bread"
2. Place you want to visit next year - Hawaii, Paris, Florida / Paris, NY, and Cabo 
3. One thing to work harder on next year - pushing the best of myself and learning new things / self development 
4. Something new to try next year - Traveling to places I never been to / Learn a new useful skill in my daily life
5. A new skill to learn next year - Learn blueprint and layout / new techinique in the kitchen 
6. Habits to change next year - NO MORE LAZY! and bad eating habits  (including cleaning habits) / More active 
7. What would you change about yourself? -  Be more active and working out more / my butt 
8. What brings you the most joy and how are you going to do more than that?
9. Three short term goals for next year (6 months)
10. Three long term goals for next year (12 months)
11. Material: What three things would you like to purchase next year?

Fill in the blank: 

1. I want to repeat:
2. I want to lose:
3. I want to gain:
4. I want to enjoy:
5. I want to savor:
6. I need more:
7. I can succeed by:
8. My helpers are:
9. I will succeed in:
10. I need to say that:

Quarterly Goals: 

1. Major Goal:
2. To reach the goal; I need to __________

 

I hope you pursue what you love in 2021, supported and surrounded by people who are so happy to have you in their lives. I hope you realize that we grow from failure, and that the lessons you learn will benefit you so much. Those bumps along the roads, the sad days, the doubting, things not turning out the way you imagined they would - they will happen, and it will be okay. You will face it, you will survive, grow and you will make a wonderful year for yourself, regardless, or indeed because of that. 

Sometime, whatever is it can be shitty but its' what you make the best out of it. With the people you surround yourself with, the environment you put yourself in. Positively putting yourself in the right position will thing bring light to the ones you love most.